Christmas is a happy time for most people and a great time to catch up with family. However, unfortunately, this can be a very difficult time for people who have lost a loved one or gone through a life changing event.
Although the grief and pain can seem amplified at this time, it is important to remember that it will get better with time. Here are a few coping mechanisms for you.
1.Surround yourself with family and people who share your grief
If you can, try and spend the day with your friends or family who’ve shared your grief this year. You’ll all be able to provide each other with the comfort that you need. If you aren’t able to be with them, be sure to call them to make sure that they are okay – this will take the focus off you.
2.Talk to someone
Be sure to speak to someone about how you’re feeling. Talking always help and will also help those close to you know how they can give you the support you need.
It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel the pain – that is part of your healing process. Don’t avoid the pain. Crying is a great release.
Prayer works. Share your heart with God. If you believe, you’ll know that God is in control and is never far from us. Take your pain to God in prayer. Again, if you can, talk to someone and if they’re open to it ask them to pray with you.
5.Allow yourself to have fun
Don’t feel bad about enjoying the day. You may have a sense of guilt that you’re ‘having fun’ whilst your loved one can’t be here. Don’t feel guilty, you know that they’d want you to enjoy the day and not stay in a state of grief for their sake.
6.Remember it will get better
Remember the old saying – time is the greatest healer. As the months and years go by it will get easier. Have a merry Christmas!
Please note that these are suggestions based off personal experience. It’s important to get professional advice from a counsellor.